Oh dear.

Great ideas need great execution.

This one is lacking great execution. Um, ANY execution.

I’m honestly not sure what I want to do with this space. I feel I lack credibility, but yet feel I don’t need any if I’m just getting together resources for guys and pointing them to my Facebook Group (please, go there and join) where they can discuss things and maybe get credible info. FYI, nothing is there yet… see the start of this post.

Another thing I’m struggling with is using my son’s disorder as a means to build a site and community. I don’t want to exploit his Autism. Personally, I think I’d rather just have the aforementioned Facebook Group and leave it at that.

Lastly, I’m also struggling with the name. I like it and think it’s clever, but I’m also finding that folks with Autism don’t seem to like the ‘puzzle symbol’ when it’s related to their disorder. I’m not overly sensitive to people’s opinion, but it does feel ironic to build something to ultimately help people that has a name that offends them. If you happen to land on this post and have Autism, please weigh in, I’d love to hear your perspective!

Good Thing Of The Week – July 10th, 2018

Our son has a habit of holding… his poop… for days. He will just not go, in a diaper or toilet.

Well, recently he was on a 4 day holding marathon (he’s done up to 7 days, ugh).

After days of him being ridiculously grumpy and suffering from holding it we managed to get him on the toilet. We had to offer a tremendous amount of incentive to get him to sit and try.

After 10 minutes it actually happened, he was able to push it out and earn himself a Thomas the Train metal engine (Hiro), a book (also Thomas the Train), and a Thomas the Train Mini. Ugh, so much for just pooping… But hey, he did it!

It may seem like such a simple thing but it was a big win in our house.

Oh, and can you tell he digs Thomas the Train? #obsessed

Fathering Autism: Fitness Challenge and What We Eat In A Day On Keto

Only the first part of this video is pertinent, but this is why I have a “Fitness” category on this site.

Not only should we be fit for ourselves, but we need to be fit for our families. It’s even more important if you have a child who’s severely affected with Autism. If they’re going to always need your help, are you fit enough to do it? Can you now? Can you when you’re 60? 70?

They will always be your kid, you should work to be there for them for as long as you possibly can.

Why “Puzzled Dads”?

So, why did I create this site?

Well, in short, for myself.

Our son was only recently (Oct., 2018) diagnosed with HFASD (High-Functioning Autism Spectrum Disorder) via an evaluation through our public school district. In the proceeding months my wife and I moved him into an ECSE (Early Childhood Special Education) preschool program, joined a local Autism organization and have spent countless hours reading up on Autism.

They say if you’ve met one child with Autism, you’ve only met one child with Autism. Each one expresses the spectrum differently.

One could add: if you’ve spent one day with your Autistic child, you’ve spent only one day with your Autistic child. Every day is different.

One bedtime routine that has worked for months can cease working in a heartbeat. Then it’s back researching and planning to figure out what to do next.

I’d like to build a resource that works to deal with those questions and changes.

OK, but why Puzzled Dads?

Well, again, for myself.

The web is awash with “Mommy Blogs”, they are great and have been enormously helpful. But, they’re written by Moms and, let’s be honest, for Moms. They have a Mom’s perspective. That’s great, but only one side of the coin.

Us guys need something too.

The spark that helped ignite this idea in my head came from a recent “parent coffee night” through our amazing local organization. We where chatting with a couple other parents and the topic of an upcoming “Mom’s Night Out” came up – just a fun night out with some of the other Moms in the group. As the conversation dug deeper into how much fun they have on these outings I looked at the only other Dad at the meeting and joked “We need to have a Dad’s Night Out!”. I was kind of kidding and it got lots of laughs, but one of the Moms exclaimed “You should!”.

That planted the seed that us guys need something for us too. Someplace where we can come together and share stories and ideas about our perspective on this whole “Autism thing”.

I have a ton of ideas for this site. But it’ll take time to build this up to something that can make those ideas come to life. So, please hang in there.

Some topics I’d like to explore:

  • Journaling and gratitude.
  • Fitness, both mental and physical (for us and our families).
  • Fun and uplifting stories.
  • Productivity, so we can get everything we need to do done.
  • Latest news in the world of Autism.

If you have ideas on things to add to the site please feel free to hit me up on Twitter via @PuzzledDads!


Good Thing Of The Week – July 2nd, 2018

What is my good thing of the week?

I think it’d be that he’s been getting much better at dealing with transitions. One night we actually got thru him putting away his toys, grabbing his things for bed, heading downstairs to brush his teeth and hop into bed.

All without much of a fuss.

Even with our bedtime routine in place he’s rarely just followed it without us constantly egging him to get moving. So I think my good thing of the week is that it feels like he’s getting better at listening to us and following direction.

What’s your “good thing of the week”?